tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post115343545322421951..comments2023-08-03T08:31:54.699-04:00Comments on whomunculus: DeceptionS'Mathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11561023888146551945noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153771823875124962006-07-24T16:10:00.000-04:002006-07-24T16:10:00.000-04:00yes, we can't really govern our emotions. Well, ma...yes, we can't really govern our emotions. Well, maybe except for sociopaths, who just imitate them.Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03438920506463041744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153628854911951432006-07-23T00:27:00.000-04:002006-07-23T00:27:00.000-04:00self-awareness doesn't equal self-control. i'm a...self-awareness doesn't equal self-control. i'm aware that i'm lonely. if i kiss someone, i'm not necessarily less lonely or more happy.<BR/><BR/>is self-awareness more than spectatorship?<BR/><BR/>is the real deception that we can govern our emotions?Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07844336789143848500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153530343313579292006-07-21T21:05:00.000-04:002006-07-21T21:05:00.000-04:00i remember being very self-conscious as a budding ...i remember being very self-conscious as a budding teenager and, from grade 7-9, almost mute. i figure now it was some attempt to freeze my determination. these were my 'rigid' years, i guess as a mode or inability to cope with or express my emotions. so i became near catatonic. that's what i meant by rigidity: mistaking self-control with 'bottling up and shelving'. i agree with you grae about the mistaking the environment as governing your emotions, but there's so many forms of input: from the internal environment (eg. memories, anxieties, phobias, heuristics) and external (eg. others' emotions, failures, tragedies), it can be hard to know what's influencing what. also, i think people are pretty similar as to what they feel (they might be prone to a particular brand of emotion, like you mention chemical dependancy), but they differ as to how they express them. that's probably why you chose the word 'govern'. <BR/><BR/>lindz... go balance! and how much is for you and how much for others? eve's suggestion of inspection turned narcissism sounds like where it becomes reflectant on another (is that how Echo lost her voice?)S'Mathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11561023888146551945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153524419127655252006-07-21T19:26:00.000-04:002006-07-21T19:26:00.000-04:00I don't think self-control is the same as being ri...I don't think self-control is the same as being rigid. I think it's mostly just self-awareness. Your dog dies and you feel sad. You computer crashes a second before you save and you feel angry. You have no one to kiss and you feel lonely. Someone kisses you and you feel happy. But.... the awareness comes from knowing that every emotion is just a chemical and since our bodies (hypothalmus?) create theses chemicals, technically, we manufacture our own emotions based on stimuli. You COULD cry over spilled milk or you COULD laugh over it. It's not locking down. It's opening yourself up to the root of your feelings. I think the real deception is the notion that your environment governs your emtions.Graehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037504424068884996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153516953862933852006-07-21T17:22:00.000-04:002006-07-21T17:22:00.000-04:00That's a good point...self-awareness has its limit...That's a good point...self-awareness has its limits. But while it's important to be self aware and to work with your personality, I think it's equally important not to scapegoat your idiosyncracies (sp?), to make excuses for them, and to not take responsibility for yourself. <BR/>Jeez...it's a wonder we're even half able to function...Lin-Zedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15439678595621816064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153512068798316272006-07-21T16:01:00.000-04:002006-07-21T16:01:00.000-04:00Yeah, lockdown here.Don't take things (especially ...Yeah, lockdown here.<BR/><BR/>Don't take things (especially yourself) too seriously. Nothing worse than an out of touch self-obsessed person. Not that you are, but there's a fine line between introspection and narcissism.Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03438920506463041744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006819.post-1153502278568960162006-07-21T13:17:00.000-04:002006-07-21T13:17:00.000-04:00I know a lot about locking it down and becoming ri...I know a lot about locking it down and becoming rigid...control or the obsession with it is a huge issue in my life. How to find a middle ground...that's the trick.Lin-Zedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15439678595621816064noreply@blogger.com